Level B2 General English

Lesson 15

Annoying Things And Cultural Taboos
迷惑なことと文化的タブー

There is something about each of us that is bound to annoy someone else. What's important to remember is that the things that annoy us are not necessarily things that are wrong. They are, in fact, the things we have been taught to dislike. For example, if you were raised to believe that letting out a good, hearty belch at the dinner table is rude and disgusting, you will be annoyed by people who do it. But in some cultures, the reverse is true, belching is considered a compliment to the cook.

Most people don't behave a certain way with the intent to annoy others. In fact, they are usually unaware that their behavior is bothering you. So, before confronting someone about their annoying habit, try to determine why you find it so annoying. Often, simply considering the behavior from a different perspective makes it less annoying. If you still find the habit unbearable, then honest communication is a must. Explain to them about what's bothering you and why. Ask them if they would try to avoid the behavior when you are together.

Sometimes people are aware of a bad habit, but don't know what to do about it. If this is the case, offer your support. Ask what you can do to help. Take time to listen. It's not always easy to approach someone, but if you are kind, respectful, and willing to listen, these conversations can help you.